Love
Do you remember what it was like in the beginning? The honeymoon stage is what they call it. The two of you connect in ways that was much different than the last. The proverbial “butter fly’s in stomach” are in full effect . You can’t get enough of one another, thoughts of being apart brings a feeling of anxiety, discomfort, emptiness. You hold hands, share food, share dreams. Every look into each others eyes only strengthens the connection. The honeymoon stage…
Do you remember what it was like to harness that honeymoon stage and make it part of your normal life? Life continues, but this time it’s different, this time there’s one to share it with, one to cry with, one to be angry at, one to make up with. Dinners are different, conversations are about the annoying co-worker or that one girlfriend with relationship problems, travel plans for the upcoming seasons, whose family are we visiting for the holidays? And those dinners are at home, comfortably with wine, sweats and a good series on the television. Dinner dates are even more appreciative, you see her or him and you are reminded of how lucky you are, you appreciate every perfect imperfection, they are also special because you both know how it will end, comfortably in each others arm before midnight.
The thing about love, having a partner, being in a relationship is, it is not always “peaches and cream.” Life will happen, the easiest thing, the simplest solution seems to be, just leave, walk away, well at least that’s been my M.O. (modus operandi). I often wonder, what happens if you don’t leave? What happens if you tough it out, what happens if you appreciate all the good and find quick solutions to the bad? What happens if you communicate? If only, we all had an example of what that looks like, if only…
